How I Hack My Anger

Try one of these techniques before you blow up at someone

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This technique is for those who are uncovering buried feelings of rage and fury through a therapeutic or recovery process as well as anyone else who may want to try them.

I call them “premeditated” because they help me discharge anger before I blow up at someone I love.

I call them “premeditated” because they help me discharge anger before I blow up at someone I love.

Codependents, including children of alcoholics, often stuff their anger during interactions with the addicted loved one and the chaos in the home. This anger-stuffing can go on literally for years.

When I was a teen growing up, I stuffed a massive amount of chronic anger.

• I stuffed anger because I feared my alcoholic father and his furious, drunken tirades.
• I stuffed sadness and anger about my enabling mother’s inability to protect me from him.
• I stuffed fury about the way my mother abruptly left our home after my parents got divorced.

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